In Support of Gay Men Kissing
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In Support of Gay Men
Kissing
This is the first man on man kiss I ever saw on TV. Yes, I know there have been others, but I don’t watch TV much. Anyway, it was certainly the first that ever came on at 7.30 on a Saturday evening and my first reaction was to fall off my chair in surprise and shout something incomprehensible about Mary Whitehouse spinning in her grave. Unfortunately, the spirit of Mary lives on in others!
First there are the basically ‘nice’, basically ‘decent’ people who, while not necessarily considering themselves homophobic, and certainly unlikely to vote for the BNP, nevertheless think “kind of”, “sort of”, “well, you know”, that it is a bit odd when they see men kiss each other, and broadly agree with him.
Men kissing in public! Shouldn’t be
allowed!
Then there’s the camp
that think that sort of thing is disgusting, shouldn’t be
allowed. Absolutely vile, repulsive. Shameless homosexuals
flouting their deviancy in public. They don’t need Nick Griffin
or anyone else to voice an opinion on their behalf. They’re
noisy enough already. For them ‘a bit creepy’ is too mild a
description of the abomination!
More men kissing!
And there is what seems a much smaller camp of people who have no problem with gays kissing whatsoever, who think the act of kissing, of one Human being pressing lips against the lips of another Human being is a beautiful expression of warmth, affection, love, passion, devotion. This group seems to be drowned out at the moment by the other two groups.
Happy, smiling, open display of affection. This would be
perfectly socially acceptable for a heterosexual
couple.
Remember the fuss about THIS ‘gay’ kiss!
Science fiction kissing! Captain Jack on Captain
John!
This picture upsets the little old ladies at my local church.
Now, I have noticed whenever the screensaver kicks in, that people will sit watching the pictures change every eleven seconds. When one of the pictures of John and Scott kissing comes up I have noticed their reactions. They vary from a twitch of the face, to a drawing back of the whole body, to a full recoil or exclamations of disgust. These friends of mine, incidentally, range from little old Irish Catholic ladies who I know from volunteering on a Saturday in church to young adults, male and female, who I worked with in another volunteer job during the summer.
The full recoil tended to be from the little old Irish Catholic ladies who were brought up in places where that sort of thing just didn’t happen and couldn’t quite believe what they were seeing. They had been happy looking at pictures of a good looking man who they thought had a lovely singing voice and seemed to be rather nice on whatever daytime TV programme they had seen him on recently. When the pictures of John with Scott popped up they said things like ‘oh, they look like brothers’. But the pictures of the two of them kissing left them stunned and confused.
A straight man kissing a
gay man – Gareth David-Lloyd and John Barrowman at a 2008
Convention playing up to the crowd.
Another straight man kissing a gay man – David Tennant snogs John
Barrowman at the 2009 Comic-Con San Diego.
Or, at least, some of them might have
pretended to react that way because that was the reaction they
were supposed to have to such a thing. Most of them come
from council estates where any sign of non-conformity to a
certain perception of what is ‘normal’ for a young adult male
would be downright dangerous. It is instilled in them by the
society they live in that men are supposed to act in a certain
way. And if any of them thought that kiss was anything but
disgusting, if any of them actually liked it, they would have had
to keep that to themselves.
I don’t think any of these people would think of themselves as homophobic. I don’t think even those young adults living in their rough council estates where unreconstructed views of the world are rife actually would beat up a gay couple if they saw them holding hands in the street. But they all displayed homophobic reactions to an eleven second exposure to two men kissing. This kind of ‘latent’ and what seems to me almost unintentional homophobia seems to be quite common among ordinary people who really don’t think of themselves as homophobic.
I don’t think any of these people would think of themselves as homophobic. I don’t think even those young adults living in their rough council estates where unreconstructed views of the world are rife actually would beat up a gay couple if they saw them holding hands in the street. But they all displayed homophobic reactions to an eleven second exposure to two men kissing. This kind of ‘latent’ and what seems to me almost unintentional homophobia seems to be quite common among ordinary people who really don’t think of themselves as homophobic.
Two Oscar winners express themselves openly.
And it really seems to me that the reason
is they don’t see enough gay kisses. Actually, on an average
day in any ordinary town or city in the UK, you don’t see
people kiss very often at all. People in the street just don’t.
Kissing is something that generally speaking goes on in
private. In fact, I actually wonder where it is that Nick
Griffin regularly gets creeped out seeing gay men kiss
publicly. He must be like those people who complain about all
the porn on TV when the rest of us are flicking through the
channels wondering where it all is! Unless you’re living
opposite a cruising site, I think the chances are you can get
through the day without seeing a heterosexual kiss, let along a
homosexual one.
A soapy kiss on Coronation Street
Another soapy one on Eastenders.
Because it is.
So Go For It, Guys
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Yes, the text here is not terribly important. it's just me rambling on a bit while I get as many pictures of men kissing into the blog as I can.
There's a song in my heart!... All these men kissing comes quite natural to me since my Partner (Who's the man of my dreams) we kiss every day. Kissing is so....kissingly good!